I was waiting for Colby to chime in, knowing his issues with the second station. The Tom Cat 255 has an added issue, with two 150 or 175 hp outboards and what is called "liquid tie bar". Basically it is paralleling the two rams, with a bypass valve which allows "alignment" of the two outboards. I suspect that this actually increases the amount of effort for the steering. I didn't have a second station. One of the first times I backed down hard, it blew the seals on the steering. The VP of Telefex what the only one could reach on the Friday Evening. He took a new pump and put it on an air plane so I got it the next day (Saturday). Then on Monday Marc Grove's tech drove about 200 miles with his positive pressure bleeder to clear the lines and we were up and running again.
I think that the "liquid tie bar" does out significantly more stress on the steering--and that is why they are suggesting to DC that, and go with a mechanical tie bar. The mechanical tie bar has some real disadvantages, including the exposed rod and threaded fittings across the nice and clear motor hull extension...But I'll bet it makes steering easier.
I would also want to make any hydraulic runs as short as possible. It sounds as if some of your runs are excessively long.
I don't think that the auto pilot is really part of the problem.