I won't go into a long discussion about 'tits' on 'male' connectors, other than to suggest that Dave might want to go back and look at his high school biology text book for a refresher course . . .
Some of these have been mentioned before, but here are a few more tidbits:
(A) IMHO, a digital voltmeter is an absolute necessity, on the boat, or around the house. If you don't know how to use it properly, you definitely want to learn how! e.g. (i) VOLTAGE: you (carefully!) measure voltage on live circuits; current does not flow through the meter during this measurement, but you want to be very careful about touching any live wires. A 12V battery grounded (through jewelry, for example) can lead to severe injuries. 120V can obviously cause fatal electrocution. (ii) Resistance - is NEVER measured on live circuits. Good connections should have very low (virtually zero) resistance. Poor connections (e.g. corrosion) have high resistance and can cause heat buildup and signficant voltage drops. (iii) CURRENT#1 (amps) For current measurements, the circuit must be opened and run through the meter. (Large currents will immediately fry small wires, and low current voltmeters!) CURRENT #2. Current probes are available that clamp around a closed wire and magically measure the current through the insulation, with no direct contact. These probes may require some knowledge when used on AC vs DC current.
Lighter receptacles can be notoriously unreliable! Sometimes the socket works with most plugs, but an occasional plug does not make good contact. Sometimes the internal spring on the plug ('tit'?) is too strong and the plug gradually works loose. Likewise, some plugs work with most sockets, but just don't seem to work in a new situation.
FUSES: Adapters sometimes have visible fuses wired in series with one of the connecting wires. However, many cigarette lighter plugs have internal fuses that are easily overlooked. Unscrew the ring, remove the 'tit', and you'll often find a fuse in there.
OBSOLETE CONNECTORS: The whole technology of cigarette lighter connectors has long since been obsolete (or should have been). With fewer and fewer of these sockets actually being used to light cigarettes, does anyone know why we still use these bulky and unreliable connectors? I've been waiting for years for the standard to change to a small, lightweight, polarized socket and plug. It is getting to be a real pain traveling with a 12-V cell phone charger (and large plug), a 12-V GPS charger (and large plug), a digital camera 12-V charger (and large plug), an NiMH charger (and large plug), and then of course, a three-headed octopus that allows me to use three of these chargers at once. Wouldn't something similar to (but NOT interchangeable with!) an 1/8th-inch headphone jack be nice?
Good luck with the gremlins!
ejg