Surfbird,
In some way, you need to view yourself in the position of those with whom you do business. For example, are you any good in your chosen field? If you have 20-30 years experience in your field, do you think your experiences and advice might have some value to a prospective customer? Should you be expected to step in and bail out someone who got the cheapest service/product elsewhere and then came to you for free advice based upon your years of expertise?
Back to you as a customer: How much might it be worth to have things orgainized, installed and arranged by an experienced dealer? Or would you prefer just to have your boat dumped in your front yard at the lowest price? How much would it cost to relocate the misplaced accessories? How much boating time might be lost this season for that? What brand/style/model of trim tabs, autopilot, gps, depth finder, radar, would fit the best or work the best for your boat? Which model is the best for you: CD16, CD22,CD25, TC255,Venture, or what? Is the boat you're wheeler dealing on capable of meeting your family's anticipated needs? Which trailer is best? Which anchor windlass? Which radio, refrigerator, A/C, furnace, carpet, curtain, engine brand and so on ad infinitum/
As another example, I am a dentist. We often have people come in to my office here in Kansas who have had dental work done in the Far East, Mexico, etc., at a fraction of the cost here - even way below my costs!
Some have had "one appointment orthodontic treatment" done on their kids! What a miracle! Or what a con-game? So, I am left trying to explain that nothing short of a miracle from above could completely treat crooked teeth in a child in one appointment for $50.
Or, they have crowns or dentures made in some far off place and come to me to "adjust" the new crowns, since they can't eat in them, the porcelain is falling off and can't take the pain any more. Of course, I am expected to "fix" the faulty work they had done on the cheap, which is impossible.
I kind of expect some boat buyers are similar, and I am amazed at how nice many of the dealers are when the "good buys" are brought in to be correctly set up and prepared for reliable use.
Life is much more enjoyable when we respect the expertise and experience of talented people in any profession, be it plumber, electrician, car/boat mechanic, body shop, boat dealer, etc.. I even try to do business with reliable, honest car dealers any time that is possible.
My dad sold cars and houses most of his life, and he took care of his customers to the point that they would come to him decades after a sale to have him help them buy another house or car. Now that is what it's all about - long term, trusting,reliable relationships!
Some Eastern thoughts relate to Kharma - what we do comes back to us - what comes around, goes around - and I think you'll always have a more enjoyable purchase and use experience by sticking with people who are experienced, knowledgeable, and trustworthy in whatever field of interest, and pay them what they're worth.
John