Hi Ron,
The pump out fitting should be at the very aft end of the deck, on the port side, just before the transom. There is a 1 1/2" hose which does directly to the bottom of the tank. You need an adaptor which fits between the screw in threads on the top of this suction fitting, and clamps over the pump out hose: You have to buy this fitting. Pump outs are usually run by an electric pump, but there are some stations where there is a large diaphragm pump which you might manually have to operate.
After sucking out the content of the tank, I usually run a number of gallons of water thru the head, and into the holding tank, with the pump shut off. This tends to rinse out the tank.
In the above, the valve may be close to the pump out, pump. The black part hanging down, is what screws into your pump out deck fitting, and the silver cam latches on the side of the gray tube, are what secure the pump out fitting to your deck fitting.
As for stress cracks. They need to be "v" cut with a Dremel tool--there is a nice "V" bit, or a small round carbide bit works well. The Dremel 1/8" shank tool is very handy for work around the boat.
You need to get matching gel coat. You can buy clear and add white or white gel coat or pasted a small amount of yellow and tan pigment to match the C Dory off white.
Or you can contact Spectrum Color at
http://www.spectrumcolor.com/Items.aspx?code=K&key=cat
And order the patch kit for the C Dory off white #00-10.
You do have to occlude air from the surface of the patched area--and this can be done with waxed gel coat, putting a film, such as Mylar, over the catalyzed gel coat, or spraying it with PVA--a mold release wax. After this you sand the repair smooth, with
wet and dry--I usually start with 300, go to 600, 1000, and 1200 to 1500 and finally with a rubbing compound.